Have aggression and anger increased?
Is understanding and managing emotions easy for everyone?
No, innate temperament seems to influence to some extent. A significant part of it is the kind of interaction that the child will spend the first few years with. One form of hostility arises when the child's needs and feelings are ignored. The child also learns to ignore them. When the disappointments are repeatedly picked up, person gets fed up. Then one can behave very fiercely. Managing emotions is difficult especially for unstable people, which is 0.6 percent of the population.
Can the models that are taught as a child in emotional control change as adults?
It is perfectly possible but difficult. Change requires favorable conditions such as good interaction and finding a place in the world. You also have to take off from the previous role. Help with emotional regulation can be learned in psychotherapy. Humans are very versatile, but some have more capacity than others.
Can the turmoil of feelings be reassured?
If a small child had full authority to act according to his will, it would be horrible. As a child grows, he learns that he can not always be angry even if he is outraged. It is imperative to learn to identify the primary feeling of rage.
For example, the primary feeling of being hurt can be shame, a derivative of which rage is born. Shame, fear and jealousy are normal feelings, and they do not have to dictate everything to do in the form of aggression.
How should the negative feelings be disassembled?
For example, if you notice that you are scared and you may find that it is normal to be frightened, the pressure on rage is reduced. As difficult a feeling as envy is, can be handled. You may try to see comic features while you are in the situation. Or you can just simply decide not to rage, go away and consider the situation later on. Disappointing emotional feelings are difficult for people who are full of fury and are inclined to see things in black and white.
Is aggression difficult to identify?
Some people are taking aggression with them. People do not either have the conditions or want to differentiate their own bitterness. For example, someone who’s jealous talks trash about others on the internet forums and takes on an role as an expert. He is trying to cope with his own difficult feelings, such as revery, jealousy, and fear. Balanced man does not go to the net to rage and hate.
Has aggression increased?
In the light of statistics it does not look like that. For example, the amount of homicide is thought to reflect the amount of violence generally. Over the past five years, homicide has been less than the previous five years. One reason for the feeling of reproduction is that news coverage of homicides has become entertaining and more attention is paid to it. For example, at the time of the Prohibition Act, homicides occurred in proportion to the population three times more than now.
Does modern life aim too much for pleasure?
Man has always been aiming for it. The demands of today's work life have grown. For example, before the person with paranoid personality disorder became a night watchman when it was a task to go with a flashlight and walk around. Nowadays he has to be social, manage electronic equipment and even pr-tasks.
About one in fifteen people meet the personality disorder criteria. Being in working life tells a lot about people: if it does not fit, it is excluded. For example, most of the male victims and offenders in the homicide are people of working age, but outside of working life. The nation shows polarization, differentiation, as exclusion continues in more generations.
Why family murders happen?
It's a sickly channeled anger. It is typical that even after the crime, perpetrators feel themselves as victims. They are characterized by abnormal self-image and narcissism. When life goes wrong for some reason, the experience of being a victim is extreme. Getting help is not an option, but things are solved by themselves. The reasons are deep, but one can speculate that modern society emphasizes narcissism.
Why does someone become evil?
There is no one reason for that. According to one model, the perpetrators are usually extremely self-centered and black-and-white people. As a child they could’ve been abused by adults. There are also people with no feelings. They are born so they do not care about other people. Psychopaths are abnormal people who do not feel the disadvantages of doing wrong to another person. Risk factors include intoxicants, brain damage or problematic behavior, such as sexual orientation towards children.
Can someone just snap?
No, not really, there is no main switch in the brain. There are emotions there that can lead to horrors. Shame and rage are the emotions that make a person to grab to a knife, for example. Afterwards the person says he does not know what happened. Remembering and understanding emotions is so embarrassing and even suicidal when someone loved one has died because of it. Then a merciful explanation comes in the story, I just snapped..